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An Interview of a Special Kind

 

Thomas is a composed, self-assured, and surprisingly charming banker with a mischievous smile. He has been in a relationship for 20 years, happily married for 18 years, and a father for 11 years. While the oldest is currently in pre-adolescence, the youngest is still in diapers. However, he dedicates his limited free time during this meeting not to his career or family, but to a topic close to his heart: the diversity of partnership.

Because Thomas recently found an unusual solution to a widespread problem.

 

Love and Reality

 

Being happily married for 18 years isn’t something everyone achieves. How did it all start for you?

“Actually, you could sell it as a script for a romantic comedy,” he laughs, his eyes sparkling.

“It began with a tournament. Mixed teams. She was one of the opponents, and we were both fiercely competing for the win. I was impressed by her at first sight, and that hasn’t changed to this day. Right after the last game, we started talking. That conversation turned into flirting. Unfortunately, at that time, we lived over 1,000 kilometers apart and communicated in broken English, gestures, and body language. Plus, there was a 12-year age difference. Not the best conditions to start a relationship.”

So, it was love at first sight under adverse circumstances?

“You could say that. I was fascinated, but realistic. I thought to myself, ‘This won’t work out.’”

 

And now, despite everything, it’s 20 years of relationship and three kids later…

“We didn’t even exchange numbers! We both knew it was a nice meeting, but just a random and one-time event. Reality suggested we wouldn’t become a couple. Two weeks later, I still couldn’t forget her, so I moved heaven and earth to get her number. But she had the same idea and beat me to it.”

 

The circumstances remained difficult?

“We quickly changed that. After six months of a long-distance relationship, it was clear we wanted to be closer. So I moved. Shortly after, we moved in together, got engaged, and had our big dream wedding.”

 

How did you go from those romantic beginnings to booking male escorts?

 

“In one word: everyday life. From the start, we enjoyed spending a lot of time together, but we also placed great value on career fulfillment. As a couple, that worked wonderfully for us. As parents of three children, priorities naturally shift. But the need for recognition, variety, adult outings, and topics far removed from the kids remains – while the time for it is more than scarce.”

 

That sounds more like a case for a babysitter and date night.

“Yes, and we tried that too. The fact is that sooner or later, conversations revolve around our children. Often, we don’t have the energy to acknowledge or uplift each other, or even just distract one another when it’s needed. Breaking out of the daily grind and recharging doesn’t always work that way.”

 

The standard advice in these situations is hobbies, girls’ nights, spa days. How did you come up with the idea of male escorts? “We realized that while we loved each other, we were also becoming stressed and dissatisfied. My wife desired an evening at a gourmet restaurant or a concert. She wanted flirting, deep conversations, or dancing. I just didn’t always have the energy or desire for that. Hobbies don’t acknowledge you. Girls’ nights don’t come with flirting. Spa days don’t take you dancing. But a male escort does just that. Safely, pre-agreed, and trustworthy.”

So, you thought, “Male escorts are the perfect solution,” and had no reservations?

 

“Oh no, there were plenty of reservations! What does this say about our relationship? What does it say about me if I’m not enough for my wife? If I can’t meet her needs? We talked a lot about it, weighed the pros and cons, and then decided to give it a try.”

 

Male escort, monogamy, and fidelity – how do they fit together?

“Surprisingly well! Neither of us wants an open relationship. We maintain emotional and sexual fidelity. That’s where we draw the line. My wife isn’t going out to find a lover or getting hit on at girls’ night. She simply has a companion with whom everything is clearly discussed beforehand: what is desired, what isn’t, and how far things will go. This gives everyone security and doesn’t threaten our marriage; instead, it enriches it. Her needs are met without me having to force anything. We can both recharge and thus feel more relaxed. Because while my wife feels desirable again and not just like a mother, I can unwind without pressure – with or without a babysitter. Our time together is happier for multiple reasons.”

 

In what ways do escorts make you happier?

 

“The idea of always being everything for each other is a utopian one. She is the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with. I want to see her happy and balanced. Sometimes, that requires more than my divided attention between work, everyday responsibilities, and the challenges that children inevitably bring. Agreeing on escorts and setting boundaries together is a sign of mutual respect. Needs are fulfilled – without cheating.”

How else do male escorts enrich your lives?

“A woman can get an appetite, but she eats at home! The saying hits the mark. Whether it’s compliments that my wife doesn’t believe – I’m her husband, I have to say that – or the lightness of a flirt. Whether it’s the allure of something new or a break from daily life: we give each other relief and enrichment that increases our desire for one another.”

 

What are others saying about your arrangement and your wife meeting other men?

 

“It hasn’t been discussed in the community newspaper yet,” Thomas laughs. “Seriously, we’re open about it with good and close friends. It’s a valuable tip and a topic in our lives. At the same time, it’s our privacy. So no one can comment unless we choose to involve them.”

 

What would you like to share with other men, women, and couples about male escorts?

“Give it a try. I felt uneasy at first. I felt a little like a failure. Maybe more than a little. But it works for my wife and me because our needs aren’t neglected. On the contrary, it relieves pressure for both of us. My ego struggled at first. But that’s where the shared rules and boundaries come into play. The openness with each other. We need to finally let go of the idea that one person can and must be everything for us. Because no matter how hard we try or how much we suppress our needs – this idea doesn’t work in the long run. Even with our dream partner.”

 

Read what Thomas’ wife has to say in her interview: I’m Happily Married and still Book Male Escorts

 

Author Jessika Mueller